is it possible to take this club into some 501c status so that we may start charging for an annual party or any event we hold and the proceeds of that event go to a chairty of our (the clubs) choice
Not an attorney but, is that the only reason for seeking 501c status?
If you want to hold a party and require that attendees make a donation to a particular charity, why can't you? Worst case, couldn't you invite a representative of the charity to be the one actually touching the money at the admissions table so that there is no other exchange of the funds?
Paul